Roses Are Red, Violets Are Blue: Families Through Adoption On Valentine’s Day

It’s February, hImageearts and love literally seem to be everywhere. We all know that Valentine’s day is a time to celebrate love-all types of love.  Romantic love, puppy love, love for friends, parents, grandparents, and children.

Have you ever thought about the love adoption brings? Adoption is a unique kind of love triangle. An adopted child has two families, for life, he or she will always be loved by both of them. There is no changing that. This unique love needs not be forgotten. In fact, just like every other type of love, it should be celebrated.

Holidays can be difficult for birth parents.  A day dedicated to love… of course it can be emotional. Birth parents may be sad, sentimental, and nostalgic during this time. Sure a lot of people argue that Valentine’s Day is a silly made up “Hallmark Holiday” but nonetheless it serves as an extra reminder about people you love-children included. Undoubtedly your child’s birth parents will be thinking of their child when February 14th comes around. If your child is old enough he or she may also think about his or her birth parents too.

Use this Valentine’s Day to celebrate the unique love in your family, both adoptive and birth families. A little “I’m thinking of you and I love you” go a long way. Handmade cards and gifts are worth so much more than any keepsake you can buy in stores. Get crafty, either yourself or with the kids. Below are links to get some inspiration going. Have fun and keep in mind that whether you are touched by adoption or not, even Valentine’s Day can be a reminder of both happiness and loss.

…Feel free to use some of the quotes for your Valentine crafts and cards!

Valentine Ideas for Kids- FamilyFun.com

Valentine Crafts and Ideas- Martha Stewart

“Love is a promise, love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear.”– John Lennon

“For love within a family, love that’s lived in
But not looked at, love within the light of which
All else is seen, the love within which
All other love finds speech.
This love is silent.”–
T.S. Eliot

“Children and mothers never truly part –
Bound in the beating of each other’s heart
.” — Charlotte Gray

“All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother”– Abraham Lincoln

“Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness.”– Oliver Wendell Holmes

2 thoughts on “Roses Are Red, Violets Are Blue: Families Through Adoption On Valentine’s Day”

  1. Your stories and “thoughts” are very touching. But never forget the “other” side. I was in foster care in the late 1950s – a nightmare. It was not against the law to abuse children then apparently. Was adopted in 1962 by older parents who went on to abuse me (though less so). In 1976 met my birth mother. She is still living now (in 2012) and has had next to NOTHING to do with me my entire life. So the sweet saying that mothers and children never part…beating from the same heart (or something like that)…not in my case. At age 57 I am still devastated and feel worthless.

    1. Thank you for sharing your experience. You are not alone there are a lot of people out there who have had experiences like yours. We aren’t forgetting them. Since you were placed for adoption so many things have changed in the system. More adoptions are open, although not all families follow through on this agreement, we try to tell all sides. Thank you for sharing yours, I hope at some point you feel closure.

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