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What He Can Expect When She’s Not Expecting: How to Support Your Wife, Save Your Marriage, and Conquer Infertility!by Marc Sedaka: This is a great book. It really explains the infertility testing process and IVF in laymans terms and with humor. It lets men know what they are in for without having to ask the doctor or feeling like they are the only ones experiencing these hormonal ups and downs. One of the best sentences is when he explains how guys may want kids, but women need kids, and while this may not be true for all men and women, those going through the rigorous process of infertility are certain to have this ring true.
Marc uses his own experiences to help guide men around and through pitfalls that he and many others have encountered. Using sports metaphors and eliminating most of the scientific and gross descriptions this book could be very helpful to any man helping his wife through the infertility process. There is a little bit at the end about other options for forming your family egg donation, embryo donation, gestational surrogacy and adoption. List price $12.95 Amazon.com price $10.36
Making Babies, Making Families: What Matters Most in an Age of Reproductive Technologies, Surrogacy, Adoption, and Same-Sex and Unwed Parents’ Rights by Mary Lyndon Shanley : Shanley explores how dominant notions of family (in which the primary partners are married, heterosexual and of the same race) have contributed to legal rulings on adoption and surrogacy which have dominated the news in recent years. She feels that the law has not caught up with reproductive technology and the make-up of modern families (single parents, same sex-couples, and even heterosexual couples where the woman is the primary breadwinner).
Shanley offers a new vision of family law that’s based on existing caring relationships of adults for children. It ensures each child’s right to be cared for, and takes into account the emotional realities of family life. She applies this practical, humane model to the most complex and controversial issues of our time, including adoption, biological fathers’ legal rights, surrogate motherhood, lesbian families, and the rights of sperm and egg donors and recipients. She feels that today’s laws do not do justice to children because they do not take into account all the different types of families there are today and instead they are trying to impose laws that define family in a very strict outdated way. This is a very interesting book with a very balanced vision. Amazon.com price $19.00
Gotcha Day: A Carried In My Heart Adoption Story for Children by Rebecca Tabasso– This is a fun children’s story about the special day Suzie’s family celebrates every year, her “gotcha day’ or the day they became a family. Suzie tries to figure out what the big day they will be celebrating soon is and she runs through all the holidays including the historic holidays on the US calendar. This book has bright, exciting illustrations and is a great way to express how much your adoption and your child mean to your family. Amazon.com price $12.96