You’ve decided to adopt- that’s wonderful!! Now how do you announce your decision….?
Make a Plan
Do you want to tell everyone at the same time or are there people in your life who you want to know first? Would the news be better in writing or in person? Maybe you want to tell different people in different ways? This is your announcement and you only get to make it once so take the time to plan it out!
Make sure that when you’re making your adoption announcement you make it clear what you are comfortable to talk about- and what you are NOT comfortable to talk about. Not only do you want to share your decision to adopt, but you want to let people know why. This might be a sensitive topic. It’s possible that there were some bumps along the road on your journey to adoption (infertility, miscarriage, even loss). It’s okay to tell people what you don’t want them to ask about.
Hope for the Best – Plan for the Worst
Adoption is bringing new life into your world! A new addition to the family is a reason to celebrate- unfortunately, not everyone may see it that way. Different people in your life may process the news differently- and that’s okay! People will be on board sooner or later but, for some, it may take time.
It’s your decision- not anyone else’s! There will always be people who disagree with your decisions no matter what they may be. Don’t listen to those people! This is your decision- NOT theirs! You chose to adopt for all the right reasons. You’ve put a lot of time and consideration into this choice- A LOT! You’re doing a great thing for your family and for the life of a child. Don’t let anybody let you think differently about that.
Be Prepared to Answer the Tough Questions
By announcing that your adopting, you may now be considered the adoption expert to people in your life who haven’t yet had experiences with adoption. Get ready to be their go to person for all of the questions that they may have about: the process, reasons for adopting, common stereotypes.
Set the Precedent with Adoption Positive Language
Start using the correct terminology from the beginning and make a conscious effort to correct people who use insensitive language. By using terms like adoptive parent, expecting parent, birth parent, ect. From the initial announcement, you will hopefully avoid issues later- like someone asking your child about his or her “real mom”.
Straight Out of Cutesville
Go the Cute Route to announce your adoption! One popular idea is giving loved ones a picture frame with a message saying “picture of your grandchild/niece or nephew/cousin coming soon!”
Check out the photo-shoots that these families had done to announce their choice to adopt. A mass mailing with a picture like one of these will be sure to spread the news with a smile.
Create Your Network of Support
Keep your team updated on your journey! Adoption is a process that takes time. To keep the momentum going create a blog, send out an e-mail check-in, or update your Facebook status regularly to let people know where you’re at in the process. This can create a lot of excitement when things are moving along well on your journey. Keeping people in the loop can also be helpful when hardships arise, and help you find others to lean on when times are tough. You don’t want to go through this process alone, and the people who care about you will want to be there for all of the ups and downs along the way.
Remember, LOVE is What Builds a Family
Choosing adoption is an amazing way to create your family. Be proud of who you are, and what you’re doing. Love is all you need.