First impressions are crucial and they are even more important when you are meeting an expectant mother who is considering you for adoption. This is a nerve wrecking stage in adoption. You wrack your mind with questions such as: “Will she like me?”, “What do I say?”, and “What should I wear?”. This is your big shot at becoming a parent and you don’t want to let it slip through your fingers. Below is a guide of do’s and don’ts when meeting an expectant mother for the first time.
- Be yourself
- Find a comfortable location
- Don’t just talk but listen
- Bring photos of your family and pets
- Be honest and respectful
- Dress professional
- Ask questions
- Be open-minded and optimistic
- Make prejudgments
- Be insensitive
- Meet at an unfamiliar location
- Rush her to make a decision
- Jump right into tough questions
Meeting a potential birth mother can be scary and it is important to be prepared. Remember that it is just a meeting and there is no guarantee that you will hit it off. There will be plenty of opportunities for you to grow your family and it will happen when the time is right. Adoption is both an exciting and nerve-wrecking time for all members of the adoption triad, so be sure to stay open-minded and be yourself!