The adoption process takes quite a while and somehow during the holiday season, the wait for adoptive parents seems to be twice as long. Seeing pictures of families can stir up feelings of incompleteness as you wait for your child to arrive. To avoid feeling discouraged and uneasy, here are some tips for adoptive parents to cope through the holidays.
Firstly, try to use this waiting process as a reason to work towards your adoption goal. This can be done by either adding pictures to your profile or creating a registry for baby showers. Contributing to your goal can help you actively feel that you’re doing something meaningful.
An additional tip is to get involved in some type of charity or fundraising work. Giving back to the community can help you feel like you’re doing something meaningful and a great mechanism to cope with your problems.
Next thing you can do is keep yourself busy with family and friends and know your limits. It’s normal to shy away from the holidays and at the same time knowing what’s comfortable for you. Being around the family or friends can relieve any stress and take your mind off things. With that said, it’s also important to be honest with them on what you do and don’t want to talk about.
You are not alone in this waiting process; many other adoptive parents have gone through this waiting trial just like you. Finding support from other adoptive parents that you can confide in can help you understand your situation and become a little more patient throughout the holidays.
Lastly, try your best to stay positive and think about when you will become parents. It’s normal to feel discouraged and uneasy during the holidays so maintaining a positive mindset will be difficult but worth it.
For more tips on ways adoptive parents can cope through the holidays please watch our AFTH TV Episode: