When you started your adoption process, you knew there would be periods of waiting involved. You knew that the home study process would take several months, but at least you felt that your adoption journey was moving forward. The period when you’re waiting for the right match is the next and often most difficult part and can make it feel like your journey has come to a screeching halt.
During this period of waiting, many adoptive parents struggle because they find themselves with not much to do besides focus on the wait. Below are some helpful tips that will help with getting through this tough waiting period.
Take advantage of time with loved ones
It’s easy to dwell on emotions when bearing through the waiting period rather than focus on those around you. It’s important to remember that this time is one to cherish with your loved ones. Spend time with your partner, close friends, and extended family, and make sure to surround yourself with people who make you smile. This time next year, your family may be even larger, but for now, it is important to focus on your relationships with those closest to you.
Join support groups
Joining a support group will allow you to get to know other families who are in similar shoes as you. This can be a great opportunity to express feelings and frustrations about the process and gain insight on how others are coping with their own journeys.
Read… a lot
Reading can help with passing time when getting through the waiting period and can be a great informative resource for you. Find books and blogs about adoption, raising adopted children, and on how to talk about adoption positively with others and your child. If you are becoming a parent for the first time, feel free to do some child care and development reading too!
While you’re looking for books for you, it might not be a bad idea to pick up some good reads for your future child as well. Check out another one of our blog posts for the top 8 best books for adoptive families: https://afth.wordpress.com/2018/10/10/the-top-8-best-books-for-adoptive-families/
Finish projects around the house
While there is no need to go out and buy a crib just yet, you can start preparing your home for a baby by finishing all the projects around the house that you have been meaning to get to. Whatever you have on your “to do” list, get it done while you have the time. After the baby comes home, sleep will be your #1 priority and not painting the bathroom.
You will soon be carrying, bending, and running more than you have in years and you will be doing this while having a child to keep tabs on. Prepare for this by getting in shape ahead of time! Exercise can also help reduce stress and boost energy levels during a potentially anxious time of the process.
Once you become a parent, your schedule will become hectic, so do the things you want to do while you have the time now. Whether it’s a spa day or taking an extravagant vacation, enjoy the freedom of your child free days while you can!
Search for pediatricians
It’s important to have a pediatrician in place before your baby is born. If you’re not sure where to start, ask friends, family, or coworkers for referrals. Make sure your pediatrician feels like a good fit for your child and of course accepts your insurance. While you don’t have to decide on a pediatrician just yet, it’s important to have someone lined up.
Keep a positive attitude
Remember that adoption is a process and takes time, so try your best to stay relaxed. Don’t lose hope throughout the process, keep a positive outlook, and be patient. It’ll be worth the wait!